arranging a scene?

[Avaly]

I'm curious, how do others go about arranging a scene? Do you wait to approached, or do the approaching yourself? And do you rely on a verbal agreement, or do you draw a written contract outlining the terms, safeword, limits and such?
~Avaly

[Mistress Whip Atlanta]

Hi Avaly,
These are good and valid questions! Im sure things are different for everyone, however for myself I always have a pre session conversation regarding interest, experience, medical history and limits! Make sure you know who you are playing with as in make sure that they know what they are doing enough to also ask you these types of questions. I do seriously recommend you meet potential play partners in public, such as 1763!
Anyone else got some help for us on this one?
MsWhip

[Stormweaver]

Sadly my limited experience has been kept to 1 or 2 people over a 12-15 year period of time. But its been verbal or spontaneous, we both are aware of the others interests, but the other person involved is not one for "Planning" events.

I've always envisioned verbal chats for the first 2 or 3 scenes, the ones where you find out if your really compatible or not, then if something more long term, a written contract of what both sides are looking for is written up and signed, carried with the same respect as any collaring that goes on. I myself can actually see using parchment and quill and ink, something that requires focus to write so that it looks right but forces both involved to be very aware of what they are writing and signing. Then its rolled like a scroll and sealed and placed where both parties are always aware of it, even see it in passing, a reminder of the commitment made. But then again... that's just me and I've been told several times that I'm off my rocker. *Smiles*