Newbie Hurdles...

[Mistress Whip Atlanta]

As a newbie to the Bdsm/kinky scene what was the biggest hurdle that you faced? It can be so very confusing from how to behave in a specific setting to what Bdsm terms mean. What did you find the most challenging or confusing as newbie on to this scene? What types of things do you think should be addressed to help a newbie transit into this kinky, confusing world of Bdsm?
MsWhip

[gapeach]

i think the hardest thing for me, since i spent a lot of time on 'another chat site', was determining the 'truthfullness' of Folks involved...

i'm not a very shy person, so it was very easy for me to walk into local munches and the dungeon and just start absorbing everything there was to learn and know and experience...

i made some very good friends, that were of invaluable help while i was still new...

[mjm202036]

Honestly, the first thing that shocked me was the kindness of everyone, but that may just be the way it is here in Georgia and at 1763. I kind of knew what to expect from reading up on the BDSM subject, but I didn't expect everyone to be as friendly as they have been. :D

[Mariavixen]

So far the biggest hurdle that my hubby and i face is simply getting time to get away to start. I will probably be nervous when i first get started but that's a small hurdle.

[peep]

For me, the hardest part remains 'real-time interactions'. I've done all the reading and chatting and investigating but my BF and I haven't gone to any groups or public spaces. I can't say for certain if it's apprehension about meeting others or simply still being a little uncertain what kinds of things we are interested in exploring.

[gapeach]

peep... real time can be a lil 'scary' at first... there's a lot of local munches (public lunches or dinners) so Ffolks can meet and chat in a casual, relaxed (fully clothed - lol ) setting...

the club is also a great way to meet people.. and see a variety of 'activities'...

tomorrow's event will be great, since there will be "Stations" of activities, for viewing, learning and even participating, if interested...

once you make that first 'outing', you'll settle a bit and won't be so nervous...

grins - after all.. Wwe're all just people... with.. umm.. interesting 'desires' ;)

[peep]

Hi gapeach and thanks for the feedback. W/we're actually thinking of attending the event tomorrow night (Saturday)... do we need to do anything to RSVP or can we just show up?

[gapeach]

you can just show up... Teri or Arnold or MsWhip should be at the front counter when you go in, and will be most helpful! :) tell 'em you've been chatting on the forum...

or, if you go to dinner beforehand, we all kinda caravan to the club, since it's right around the corner, and i'll help ya'll get in :)

[Mistress Whip Atlanta]

For me, the hardest part remains 'real-time interactions'. I've done all the reading and chatting and investigating but my BF and I haven't gone to any groups or public spaces. I can't say for certain if it's apprehension about meeting others or simply still being a little uncertain what kinds of things we are interested in exploring.
Hi Peep,
I hope you make it out to 1763 this weekend! You will find us to be very friendly and welcoming! We have all been new at once and we are all new to something always so please come on out and take that first step! You can watch and not say a word if you wish or if your open to it we can show your around and introduce you to others if interested!
MsWhip

[Mistress Whip Atlanta]

Honestly, the first thing that shocked me was the kindness of everyone, but that may just be the way it is here in Georgia and at 1763. I kind of knew what to expect from reading up on the BDSM subject, but I didn't expect everyone to be as friendly as they have been. :D
Thanks for the thanks !! It's true that most people have been scared to death of coming to a public dungeon and with good reason. Most dungeons that Ive been too almost seem to go out of their way to make you feel un welcomed! We strive to be different, we love our attendees and do not want anyone to feel alone or out of place at 1763!
MsWhip

[peep]

Hi A/all,
Thanks for a fantastic first gathering. Sir Dale and Barbary where so much fun, everyone was super welcoming and we got lots of stimulation and new ideas.
Hope to see E/everyone again soon.
D and peep

[gapeach]

hiya peep!! glad Yya'll could make it out - and sorry i didn't know who you were, or i would have said hey... it was kind of a busy evening - great energy and wonderful people...
looking forward to seeing you another time :)