Are you born or molded into being a sub/slave?

[Mistress Whip Atlanta]

For those on here who are submissive or slave oriented, are your born or molded into this identification?
MsWhip

[Kat]

i feel as if the basic identity of a sub is something that is born... once i realized i was a sub i felt more comfortable and more in tune with myself... i feel that the molding comes from finding a good Dom/me to bring out and train the qualities which make a well behaived sub.

[Mariavixen]

I have to agree with Kat. I think it is something you are born with but it can be molded over to time to come out or dissapear.For myself I know without a doubt that i love being submissive however because of my lifestyle , my husband and i have played both top and bottom to each other. It's great because it's what we as a couple need. However I am extremely happy to have the chance to be dominated by a true dom at the club. I can't wait until we can go. Thanks so much mistress whip.


Maria Vixen

[humblegentleman]

I think I would have to disagree with both Kat and MariaVixen. I think being Dominant/submissive is a result of upbringing, experiences, socialization, and thought patterns which one molds to over time.

For example, I am dominant in my everyday life (work, school, social groups, etc). It is only with women that I am submissive. I wasn't born that way. I developed into it (at a young age, I will add), but it wasn't because I was born that way. It was because I learned a great deal of respect and esteem for women at a young age, and my appreciation of all the good that they are and do.

My submission is a consequence of my high esteem for women and the position they hold in society, and as a result of my desire to bring joy and happiness into the life of my Lady (whoever she may be). Had I not been exposed to the experiences and wisdom I was exposed to growing up, I might not be submissive with women.

[gapeach]

i've always been one that enjoys 'tending' others.. refilling drinks, doing the household things, anything that someone needs... sooo.. i'd have to say, i was born into my 'mode'...my life experiences have made me the strong, independent one that i am, but i still thoroughly enjoy doing for others..

[mjm202036]

I'm like humblegentleman is. I was born and raised here in Georgia, and my mother insisted I be a gentleman toward women. Thanks to that upbringing, and a good lesson from my mother not to hit girls when I was very young, I have always felt submissive toward women in general. I have always tried to give women I have been with in past relationships what they wanted, showing my subservient side in that way.

But, (yes, there is a but), I have learned from talking to a couple of Doms that they were in a similar position as I am. I'm subservient but I want to do what pleases the woman I'm in the company of. So, if that means she needs me to open her door, light her cigarette, rub her feet, then so be it. If she needs me to dominate her to make her happy, because she prefers to be dominated, then I think I could fit those qualifications as well.

So, though I consider myself undecided in position (Dom/sub, Top/bottom, etc.), I belive I will be a bit of a subservient Master in the end. Does that make sense? :confused:

[morningstart4u]

I would have to say born. I was raised going by the Bible, where a women submits to the male. Even today, when my family gets together to eat, Men first. Women last. I is not something that is talked about, its just life.:)