bottom to sub, or straight into sub?

[gapeach]

here's something i've always wondered about... and curious as to how others 'make the transition' or 'enter into things'....

seems i start out looking for just Tops.. and i've found a few pretty dang good ones... but there was One, once, that was very smooth, Wwe had the sparks, things progressed, and little by little, i felt the sub in me rising to the surface...it was wonderful while it lasted...

now i tell myself that i'm searching for a Top.. that i'm not gonna let my heart go to that place so quickly...i'm not in a hurry to take a fall like i did last time - *grins* i just want some good old fashioned butt whacking! lol..

so, i guess my question is, do you start out being 'just a bottom' or do you enter into relationships with the 'end result' being sub to that One?

or, just feel free to make comments on anything along these lines...

*peachie*

[willingtoserve]

I think we all have a little bit of both in us. I have always felt I was part sub and part dom. Had someone tell me years ago that I had to be one or the other and it bothered me for a long time trying to figure out which one I was. Now it doesn't bother me anymore. I finally figured out that you can be both.
I have always enjoyed pleasing a woman. If it takes being bound doing what she wills me to do to satisfy her thats great. If she loves to squirm in bondage herself that is also great because I enjoy controlling her pleasure that way. I love but because the goal is always the same. To please her.

[LdyScarlett]

It kind of sounds like two issues here (1) being controlling how fast you become emotionally attached to a Dom and (2) if there is really a starting point of being a bottom then a sub and what is the difference. On the first one from what I have read and been there myself our hearts seems to fall pretty fast when we think "Oh, this is the one" and I don't know if we can stop that from happening as long as we are in the search mode, which I think we all are if we are not attached already to someone. On the second point I think it links in with the first one in that if you are not actively looking for "the one" then yes you remain a bottom. But the minute you think you have found "the one" your heart jumps in and sends you into sub mode. I hope this makes sense - it does in my head but then oh well not everyone can read my head. lol