Your first exposure to BDSM/Kink

[Mistress Whip Atlanta]

What was your first exposure or experience to BDSM/kink? Did you go out with a friend and hit a dungeon? Did you go out with someone and end up at home and find your new friend was kinky? Did you carefully research everything you could find on kink and plan a night out to a dungeon? Did you go to the swingers club and find there was a dungeon next door?

What was your first exposure r experience with BDSM/Kink?:rolleyes:

[joefaditz]

I had read about such things in Variations mag, but first experience was when I got my bare ass spanked and paddled by two female friends, one of whom later became my first Domme.

[strayangel]

I was minding my own business playing spades online and a cop contacted me after seeing that I was on late. We talked and he asked me if I was submissive. I said, "I guess I am (not even knowing what I was talking about or what he meant)." He said he was Dominant (but only online).

So, I started cybering with him and as he talked about BDSM fantasies I realized that I liked it. And, even though I was scared to death, I looked up local dungeons in Atlanta. That was when I learned about the Sanctuary. I asked my online Master if I could go see what it was about and he gave me permission and told me to write to him about what I found.

My first time at the Sanctuary made me cry because I realized that I had finally found where I belong. My second experience was at the old PEP and that is where I met my Mentor and his poly family ... who I love with all my heart ... and the rest is history.

That was almost 8 yrs ago and even though the online Master left when he found out I was real time, I will always thank him for starting my curiosity. Now I am slave to a wonderful Master who I have served for 6 yrs and I couldn't be happier.

strayangel

[watersportman]

I lived in Dever at the time. I lady friend, not girl friend. We would get together for dinner sometimes. One night she told me about, what she called her dark side. She told me about being a sub to a Female Dom. She told me all about her play with this lady. She asked me if I would like to meet her and maybe play? I said sure. We went to her place in Golden. This is just West of Denver. We got to her house on a Sat. morning. We talked about submission and my feelings about this type of play. To be honest with you. I thought this would be a great time to see my friend naked. I know I know I was such a pig. But after that visit of spankings, oral on both of them and being made to walk around naked and serve the Mistress and do what she wanted me to do. I got into it. Two weeks after that we were invited to a party. There were seven women and my friend and me! We were the entertainment for the day. Plenty of spankings, oral and strapon play. So to make a long story short this is how I got into D/s. I am a switch. I do like playing to Dom role also. But being a sub is my favorite.

[joefaditz]

Very interesting. But how and when did you get started in watersports? Do you like to be on the receiving end or giving end

[watersportman]

Good morn. I got into the water sport thing about 7 or 8 years ago. I was with a Dom and she asked me about this sort of play. We talked about it and I said I would give it a try. I like giving and receiving. Thanks for asking.

[FurryFury]

Through the years I've know very little about it but some of my buds were into it and I always thought, "That's okay for them but it's not for me."

Meanwhile all my fantasies were about humiliation, group sex, objectification, and rape. I didn't put two and two together. I was worried and wondered why I couldn't be blank and just in the moment or at least have nice fantasies. I truly though I was sick.

Then, I decided to try some online role play because in RL I wasn't getting enough of it. I'm not talking about sex here or D/s I'm talking about D&D, VTM and those sorts of games.

Now, even in games I've not wanted to take power ever. In my RL I often feel uncomfortable with the amount of power thrust upon me but I step up because I want to do the right thing. I think, why do it if you are going to do it right and well.

So I created this character because of a book I'd read and it was a law officer of a sort. I found myself in a scene where I had to take charge and be powerful.

I'd never written anything like that before but I went all the way with it. I was just basically arresting a guy and trying to keep control of the situation. I went all macho with it. The whole time I'm thinking, "Why is this guy going along with this?" and kind of cringing.

Suddenly though I noticed I was wet and very excited. OMG!

The next time I tracked that player down he took charge. I was even more excited by that.

I began to research "Power Exchange." I began to role play that as much as I could. I looked for every resource on it I could find.

Eventually I got with my husband to try some things out. For a while there he had all the action he could handle and then more. LOL!

I found a local munch. I found online groups. I went to demos, kink events and play parties. I'm a very private person. I don't play in public. I'd like to though.

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[William]

My first exposurer to Kink was many years ago as a recently divorced young man ,I to decided seek out variations of sexual pleasure .having friends in the gay community in my home town ,I was told don't knock it till you try it !
Visiting the local gay bar I met many TS girls ,crossdressers as well as many folks engaged in various forms of kink .While I enjoyed the TS girls ,I found
I was mainly hetro .Dating many women over the time span of being a batchelor from exoctic dancers to divorced moms ,with sexually repressed desires ,I experimented with various pleasures during sex.
Once women found out that I was open minded ,and excepting of most anything the further some would take it and I would also .I learned by giving them the green light to act out their desires .One of the first real experiences I recall was a Basketball coach at a small college I met,She had me turn her over my knee and spank her with her favorite paddle ,she would climax and climax,I had no idea one could do this !Mind you this was 1977-78 I was turned on ! So I sought out liberated girls after that.
Being the dominant Spanking I have found really sets alot of young women on fire .Then I met my next wife young and 19 ,what a challange! I soon learned she was not as innocent as her age.
My ex wife I learned after some years of getting her to open up ,yearned to be a domme of sorts !She also had a fantasy from piss play and really got off
wanting to pee on me in the shower! Bless her guiltridden self !She would act
out on these and then go to church to absolve herself of the wickedness in her.
Well you can Imagine where this ended up after 14 years ! Yes I chose the out, divorce I was miserable .
My Lady nesta and I have been together 13 years ,now married ,she is my submissive to my kinky liking .We choose to join the BDSM community because I felt we belonged from the moment ,of our first club visit and munch.I am at home ,with fellow lifestylers!
It has afforded us many opprotunities to learn more !

[voyrjo]

I got an early start into it... when I was 13. I was constantly masturbating (yeah I know all guys did at this age...) but I was REALLY constant. fondling in pants, rubbing/pressing into counter at store etc. It was about the same time I had started to peek in on a girl across the street from me at night. (Yes I was a perv.. she didnt know). Would always sneak out waiting for that light of her window to come on and go masturbate looking in at her. I started sneaking out trying to find others to peek in.. and found one of an older woman that lived in another neighborhood close to mine. Was mesmerized watching her and went there whenever I could. I even got so bold as to strip naked and masturbate, going from window to window as she went sometimes. It was usually dark and secluded (have to think back to the early suburbs when trees and distance of houses were abound). It was then that I got caught by her... the flash of the outside light, her coming out angrily demanding/questioning me, threatening me. It was the most scared I have ever been. Asking my name where I lived etc. then told me to go ahead show her. I wasnt able to until she threatened me more. So i did, masturbated as she watched... then telling me leave immediately, and said I know where you live. i was and have never been so fearful in my life, as each day I was waiting for the cops the phone call to parents etc, but it never happened. And that just seemed to subside... but only to start me off into several other escapades.

[Kat]

i had slow exposure to it... being with 'nilla lovers who would occasionally throw in a collar or breathplay every so often. i found that i requested it more and more, and often they were too nervous or found it odd to oblige. many of them felt they needed alcohol to be uninhibited enough to justify (in their mind) being rough.
my first experience with BDSM was when a couple i knew from campus invited me to join a threesome, where i learned about candle-wax, whips, bondage, breath-play, and the first witness i had to a Dom/sub relationship.
i found it very exhilarating, that i had found people that were like me and werent abusive to one another.
since then ive been exploring through circles of mutual friends of theirs and my own, and experimenting with my different interests.
now that i've moved to atlanta, i have more opportunities to go to clubs and find places like 1763, where i can really get into it and begin to learn and play, and meet more people :)