Needs vs. Wants

[Mistress Whip Atlanta]

Hi Forum Members,

I've seen various points of views regarding Needs vs. Wants! There are many new people to this forum and I feel that this type of discussion may be most beneficial to them! Therefore, please post your experiences and or thoughts on what to expect when it comes to ones Needs and Wants in a BDSM relationship!
Have a great day and I look forward to a very informative and interesting discussion!
MsWhip

:D

[gapeach]

ok.. i'll go for it! :)

things i need

*honesty in a relationship
*building the relationship first - Wwe are people first, and lifestylers second, kinda!
*to be in His mind and heart, before i'm in His hands
*security, that i will be safe
*to be able to be "me" - of course, i always do my best to reflect proudly on Him
*communication, communication, communication
*to know that He is comfortable, confident and experienced in the "play" that Wwe are doing
*to be treated with respect, as a human, and as a lady - slut part comes after dark - lol...

my wants... *grins*

*to experience every aspect of the lifestyle - try everything that's out there! of course,
that's only done with One that i have the trust and confidence in - see above!
*to have more time to spend doing all that
*to be the one and only for Him
* won't go in to things like word peace, independently wealthy, etc! lol


hmm.. looks a lil top heavy on the needs, but well, when the needs are met, everything else falls into place :)

*peachie*

[Mistress Whip Atlanta]

Hey Peachie,
Thanks for the post, I really hope this stirs up some conversation! Everyones needs and wants are different and I hope seeing that difference in a public forum will help others to find some answers!
MsWhip

[FurryFury]

I was at the BDSM Academy online for a while because I have no Dom. What I found out by answering various polls and such was that while I do like to try things and I am an sensation "junkie", doing tasks for random people or just trying things isn't what I'm interested in.

I need it to be based on a relationship of mutual trust and care or it means little to nothing to me. I have done some thrill seeking just for me but not much.

What I would like, theoretically is for my husband to be a Dom, and for us to try everything at least once, and maybe a lot more, together! LOL.

He isn't a Dom and isn't going to become one.

He is willing to try a lot of things. Thank goodness!

We've had a lot of fun trying some of his fantasies and some of mine.

I do have what I need though, mutual trust and care with him.