lifestyle secret from extended family

[lacey]

i love this lifestyle it sets me free. But, i cant share it with my extended family and friends and often times find i have to lie to cover where i go and what i do. It causes me so much stress. Can anyone give me advice on how to handel things like this?

[lacey]

sighs ok - so i am the only one with this problem :p

[subversive]

Pretty common problem. Just the way the world is wired. There are many kind people like you, however, so just find them and enjoy!

[Beast]

Having to hide your kink from friends and family is a common 'guilt' that a lot of people have to deal with. Hopefully you can find some comfort in that. There's just about no way to tell you how that, except to tell you that there are many in that situation. You can say you're going to dinner and dancing with friends or something....you are going to eat and if you're at the end of a single tail you may be dancing. :D

Think of ways to explain it in a vanilla way...OR, you could say what you're really going to do and they won't believe you...or they'll ask more questions. Hmmm... ...one way to 'out' yourself, I suppose. <chuckle>
Beast

[gapeach]

hmmm.. interesting thought here...

my family and nilla friends have noooo idea of my "dark" side, and that's ok with me.. i don't have to explain my whereabouts, and well, frankly, if my bottom is a lil red or bruised, none of them would see!

when i was at a point of needing a sitter for my child, my only explanation to anyone was that i'm going out - and call the cell if you need me... *grins - and i very selfishly arranged for over niters!

there's been times i've thought of "spilling the beans" to a close nilla friend or two, but i'm not sure they'd understand the enjoyment i get out of it, and think it's kinda weird, and well, frankly, i'm not ready to put any strains on any relationships... i've grown quite accustomed to wearing the appropriate hat in the appropriate situation!

i have a wonderful "other family" of Kink friendly Ffolks, that we dine, chat, play together whenever Wwe can all get together... several are very close Ffriends of mine.. and these are the Ffolks that i can discuss the kinkier side of life with!

hope you can find your balance!

*peachie*