Jealousy...

[Mistress Whip Atlanta]

Do you have jealousy? How do you handle jealousy?:eek:

[willingto]

i've never been one to be jealous, i just do the best i can when i get the chance, if the other party chooses someone else, well, there loss, i did all i could do.
does that make any sence at all?
willing:D

[Mistress Whip Atlanta]

Thanks for the reply. Who else has experience with jealousy with yourself or others around you?:eek:
MsWhip

[lulu]

Hello I am new here and just hope this is a good forum for newby subbies... Umm jealousy, yeah I do get jealous, but he is much moreso... lol We both completely trust one another though so really it isn't too much of an issue

[gapeach]

i think that jealousy comes from a lack of trust, a lack of communication...

if you're with the right one, and on the same page, and the honesty is there, there should not be jealousy...

i've experienced it in the past, and now know it's because i was not in the right relationship.. *nods* and when i did, i would try and "barb" back, nitpick back.. aka.. be a bitch!! lol although, i never tried to get the jealousy going in the other person

now, there is no jealousy, because i am confident in myself, confident in Oour relationship...

*peachie*

[strayangel]

I have never really been jealous of anyone. However, I have had people make me angry and I was accused of having a jealous reaction when it was really anger I was feeling.

As far as my relationship with my Sir is concerned I have no reason to be jealous because he goes out of his way to let me always know where I stand with him. He has other subs and I have actually liked them. After all, I figure since he is such a wonderful Dom, and since he has such a great way of healing injured birds/subs and restoring their self esteem, who am I to deny him or the sub the benefit of learning what a kind and supportive Dominant is really like? It makes me proud to be slave to such a wonderful Master.

In Love and In Joy,

stray

[gapeach]

stray.. i applaude you.. for realizing that helping the "injured ones" brings Him great pleasure.. selfishly, i have to say, in a situation like that, i would need some growth on my part to be totally comfortable in my place.. i think i'd be afraid that someone else would take my place in His heart... don't get me wrong - my desire is to see Him happy - but.. i think my chosen One would be (is) One that is satisfied with me - not looking to tend to others...

hmm.. mebbe that's jealousy!!

*peachie*

[strayangel]

Hi peachie,

Believe me, I do understand how you feel. I was not sure how I felt about the whole poly thing at first. But over time as I learned more about him and as our relationship developed I came to feel very secure in my place with him. And, now I have no fear that I will be replaced.

But that has taken place over years of learning and loving him. And, as he says, he is a big enough man to have more than one special relationship with more than one special person. And as I thought about it I realized that he was right, and that his feelings for others did not affect his feelings for me because each relationship is different.

I think the key to it all is that he makes sure that I always know where I stand with him. That way I dont feal slighted or have a need to be jealous.

I will admit that there have been times that I felt left out when he went out of town to see a sub. But, that was only me feeling left out for not getting to be in on the fun, never jealous of the other sub. However, that has even gotten better because I know He and she need time alone to develop their own relationship. And, my fondest hope is that one day there will be a sister sub locally who I can enjoy a friendship with as well.

But then poly is not for everyone. It works for some and not for others. I never thought I would enjoy it but now I actually love it, and I love helping him with the ones he loves. But, that is just me. And, I hope that you will always rejoice in what you have with your One, and that it will only continue to grow stronger.

In Love and In Joy,

stray