Xen Softspirit
09-08-2007, 06:47 PM
I'm an intelligent, imaginative lesbian. I'm always willing to learn and grow and love open minded people who have a respect for diversity.
I have lived a lesbian lifestyle for the last 14 years. I'm just learning about the leather community though I've had a secret interest for a long time. It just took me awhile to be able to admit it. Some of us have one closet, some have many to exit out of.
I have an adult dependant life partner who is disabled and I love her, so I may not be free, but I'd be happy to have friends. I'm not looking for a love relationship at the moment. I might be looking for play partners or mentors but I'm interested in keeping that on the platonic and not so serious side, considering my situation. I live in the Chicago area.
I am seeking a butch Daddy or Master for training or mentorship. I have no genuine interest in male born doms except for friendship or networking purposes. I'm willing to consider serving femmes. I am curious about the poly lifestyle and the possibility in the long term of joining a leather family.
My interests include but are not limited to spanking, bondage and service. I'm sure that the right person could expand my interests. I long to please the right one. I'm probably a switch, but I have very strong submissive tendancies I have not explored. I'm content to be in a role of service though it'll take a confident dominant for me.
My more positive traits and skills inlude communication abilities, intelligence, manners, gratefulness, writing, website design skills, computer literacy, introspection and observational skills, honesty, sense of humor, flexibility, great massage fingers, compassion and insight, perserverance and a willingness to learn.
What I need to work on is fear of abandonment, attention getting, letting go of ego, protocol, boundaries, discipline and finding my own inner master to nurture and discipline myself.
The person I'm looking for is highly communicative, confident, consistent, fairly flexible, not bound to traditional notions of sexual orientation and gender, fair, a non smoker and not an addict, honest, wise, is creative, knowledgeable about the leather community, and has integrity and ethics and an open minded sort of spirituality, is authentic in all they do and is committed to a 24/7 lifestyle as much as is possible. In addition to those qualities I would hope that they are able to inspire me to expand and grow and nurture my own talents and abilities.
I believe that power exchange is about empowerment not disempowerment and that even submissives or slaves can feel empowered to accomplish great things by the structure and training that is given to them. I believe that slaves are not doormats, and I'm a highly intelligent woman who knows my own mind and has a lot to bring to the table. I do not feel that it is too much to ask that You are a person who connects on a spiritual level and who has a deep understanding of emotional pain and grief.
My blog:
http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-5IBpuyEid6dbmX6qBL_1wA--;_ylt=AkE1SWg40CoTpsvm3MNOuAukAOJ3?cq=1
I have lived a lesbian lifestyle for the last 14 years. I'm just learning about the leather community though I've had a secret interest for a long time. It just took me awhile to be able to admit it. Some of us have one closet, some have many to exit out of.
I have an adult dependant life partner who is disabled and I love her, so I may not be free, but I'd be happy to have friends. I'm not looking for a love relationship at the moment. I might be looking for play partners or mentors but I'm interested in keeping that on the platonic and not so serious side, considering my situation. I live in the Chicago area.
I am seeking a butch Daddy or Master for training or mentorship. I have no genuine interest in male born doms except for friendship or networking purposes. I'm willing to consider serving femmes. I am curious about the poly lifestyle and the possibility in the long term of joining a leather family.
My interests include but are not limited to spanking, bondage and service. I'm sure that the right person could expand my interests. I long to please the right one. I'm probably a switch, but I have very strong submissive tendancies I have not explored. I'm content to be in a role of service though it'll take a confident dominant for me.
My more positive traits and skills inlude communication abilities, intelligence, manners, gratefulness, writing, website design skills, computer literacy, introspection and observational skills, honesty, sense of humor, flexibility, great massage fingers, compassion and insight, perserverance and a willingness to learn.
What I need to work on is fear of abandonment, attention getting, letting go of ego, protocol, boundaries, discipline and finding my own inner master to nurture and discipline myself.
The person I'm looking for is highly communicative, confident, consistent, fairly flexible, not bound to traditional notions of sexual orientation and gender, fair, a non smoker and not an addict, honest, wise, is creative, knowledgeable about the leather community, and has integrity and ethics and an open minded sort of spirituality, is authentic in all they do and is committed to a 24/7 lifestyle as much as is possible. In addition to those qualities I would hope that they are able to inspire me to expand and grow and nurture my own talents and abilities.
I believe that power exchange is about empowerment not disempowerment and that even submissives or slaves can feel empowered to accomplish great things by the structure and training that is given to them. I believe that slaves are not doormats, and I'm a highly intelligent woman who knows my own mind and has a lot to bring to the table. I do not feel that it is too much to ask that You are a person who connects on a spiritual level and who has a deep understanding of emotional pain and grief.
My blog:
http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-5IBpuyEid6dbmX6qBL_1wA--;_ylt=AkE1SWg40CoTpsvm3MNOuAukAOJ3?cq=1