I need a perspective

[merlin]

I may possible be in the wrong place, but I have recently met a beutiful woman, gotten to know her quite well, and just had her inform me that she was a submissive. I an run of the mill sexually, nothing too far out, but I find myself totally facinated with her and the secret life she has. I don't know what I am asking, maybe some place to start a better understanding. I hope I haven't offended anyone be my statements, but I find all she has told me quite exciteing.

Hi and welcome to the 1763 Forum! This is certainly a good place to inquire about BDSM and submission. Are you located in Atlanta?
MsWhip

[merlin]

I am in florida

Hi Merlin,

You may want to find out if you have local BDSM clubs and meetings that you two could attend. Or If you get a weekend away you can plan a trip to Atlanta and 1763 and come meet some locals and perhaps find out a bit more about the two of you.

There is also a ton of info on the web and you can try some of the links here.


Good luck,

MsWhip

[merlin]

Thanks, I"m sure there are no clubs around here ( north fla). Don't know if we could visit together , too many complications. May I visit alone or do I need to bring a second person?

Hi Merlin,

Your welcome to visit alone anytime!

MsWhip

[mareboy113]

I am sure there are clubs around you Sir, though they are likely not going to be found in the phone book or on a billboard on the interstate. Just have to do some checking around and see what you can find.

It is not unusual for those outside the lifestyle to become curious of it though. This is because it is simply not openly discussed in public, so of course no one could expect you to know it in depth. If youwatch though you can often pick out people who are init. You just need to know what to look for. As a submissive myself though I will try to give you a perspective on the lifestyle, atleast from how I see it.

Some of us just feel the need or desire to serve others. I always have from as far as I can remember and do not know why other than that it is my nature. Though if you met me you would likely not see it unless you were an experienced dominant. this is because even though I am submissive, I am not someone who always seems indecisive on my own or as some might decide to term it a "feeble person". I understand that i should humble myself before others and that in me I feel a desire to serve them as they deem fit. This is not to say that if I were given an order that would endanger me that I would follow it. For instance being ordered to jump off a bridge or similar structure. I do rush to a superior when called (which is all females and a fewmales that I choose to respect). I follow all orders to the letter which is why I need specific orders. If you are vague with them and do not tell me to fill in the blanks then I will only do things as instructed to and without question. I also study many differentskills and practice them in order to increase my value to a futureMistress. I intend to get my degree before finding someone to own me so that I might be very highly valued. From my discussions with dominants I have come to understand that more so than just a sexual slave, a sensual and cultured slave is also in demand. Why not find you aservant who could cook you nice food,give you massages when youdesire them, protect you from physical violence if it is necessary, hold intelligent conversations with, etc...



Synopsis: Submissives enter this life willingly. Even though we submit, it is only because we choose to do so. We are not all just there solely to give or be used forsexual pleasures. Some of us are much more than that, if thatat all in some cases. If you want someone to talk with things about privately, I would be more than happy to give you my email adress and answer any questions in specifics for youM'lord.